Losing One Month

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Today after one month of waiting to meet someone in person to tell them how I feel, because they were too busy to meet me before that, and then getting rejected makes me think: if the person can't figure out why I would wait one month to talk to them in person (or at least that it had some significance), and the fact that I valued meeting them in person so much I was willing to wait a month to meet them didn't give them pause to consider how much I valued them, the relationship never would have worked anyway. Even if they had said they felt touched by my devotion, but still didn't want to pursue a relationship that would have been fine but not even that.

I have noticed twice now that women I have dated or wanted to date didn't value my time. They complained that I didn't give them the best quality time, or that I didn't give them enough time, or didn't even care about the time I gave. This is seriously discouraging. Time is precious to me, and with whom, and where I spend it, especially in social settings is a choice I don't take lightly. I don't have a lot of time to date, or be social so when I choose to do that it is almost always at the expense of something else. 

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